Reading People: How Seeing the World through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything by Anne Bogel

Reading People: How Seeing the World through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything

If the viral Buzzfeed-style personality quizzes are any indication, we are collectively obsessed with the idea of defining and knowing ourselves and our unique place in the world. But what we're finding is this: knowing which Harry Potter character you are is easy, but actually knowing yourself isn't as simple as just checking a few boxes on an online quiz.For readers who...

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  • Maxwell

    Just a disclaimer: this was sent to me by the author, whose

    . However, as usual, all opinions are my own and there was no obligation on my part to give this book any rating or review. Huge thanks to Anne for sending me an early copy though!

    Now on to what I thought of this book.

    Firstly, it's definitely a book that's outside of my reading wheelhouse. You might've noticed, if you've been following me for any period of time, that I don't read a ton of non-fictio

    Just a disclaimer: this was sent to me by the author, whose

    . However, as usual, all opinions are my own and there was no obligation on my part to give this book any rating or review. Huge thanks to Anne for sending me an early copy though!

    Now on to what I thought of this book.

    Firstly, it's definitely a book that's outside of my reading wheelhouse. You might've noticed, if you've been following me for any period of time, that I don't read a ton of non-fiction, and especially not self-improvement type books. I don't often find non-fiction books that fascinate me enough to spend much time with them, but this one really piqued my interest because it deals with personality and personality assessments.

    I'll admit it: I'm a sucker for a good personality quiz. I've taken many: the MBTI, Enneagram, StrengthsFinder and silly Buzzfeed quizzes (all of which Anne covers in different chapters of her book, minus the latter). So to read about how these can be applied to your life and your relationships with other people was super interesting to me. I love getting the results from these assessments, but I rarely do anything with them.

    Reading this helped me to see not only how one person has used personality frameworks to change their old habits, but how to build new ones and see the world through new lenses. Though some of it was old news to me, I found many parts to be really illuminating and helpful. Newbies to any of these personality assessments will get a lot of great info to start their journey to better understanding themselves and how they fit into the world around them. If you're at all interested in reading this, I'd say go for it! Not only because you'll be supporting someone who is very invested in the book community, online & offline, but you also may find something that flips the script on how you view yourself or others in your life.

  • Rachel Dawson

    Reading People is the first book Anne Bogel has written, and you guys, it's so good! Anne has long been my most trusted book-recommender (her podcast is amazing and always so fun to listen to!) and one of my very favorite bloggers, so I was thrilled to see her write a book of her own, especially one that is such a marriage of my favorite things! It was a joy to be chosen to join the launch team for this one (heads up, there are affiliate links in this post, and you should know I was sent a free

    Reading People is the first book Anne Bogel has written, and you guys, it's so good! Anne has long been my most trusted book-recommender (her podcast is amazing and always so fun to listen to!) and one of my very favorite bloggers, so I was thrilled to see her write a book of her own, especially one that is such a marriage of my favorite things! It was a joy to be chosen to join the launch team for this one (heads up, there are affiliate links in this post, and you should know I was sent a free copy to read and review with you all!) -- I was dying to read it anyway.

    If you are interested in personality types at ALL, grab this one. I'm serious. If you're curious about the ways that WHO you are affects HOW you are and WHY you are, grab this one. If you like trying to figure people out or better understand yourself, grab this one!

    For as much of a personality type nerd I am, there was still SO much I learned in this book, especially about the cognitive functions and deeper levels to the MBTI! I especially loved the Enneagram talk since I'm fascinated by all things Enneagram and can't stop reading/talking about it... But there wasn't a single chapter that didn't teach me something new, help me understand myself a little better, and give me something new to think about.

    This one is fun (not heavy at ALL!), delightfully written, conversational, easy to read, and still full of great, helpful information about all kinds of personality aspects.

    Hope you all love this one as much as I do!

  • Katie Toungette

    First of all, I am typically pretty private with my thoughts on a book unless I really hated it or really loved it. Other than this, I am pretty sure that the world will still spin without hearing my thoughts on someone's writing and creativity (or not). I now know that this is because I am the personality type that I am, which is, depending on what chapter of Reading People you are studying - an INFJ, an Introvert, an HSP...and the list goes on. I am in Human Resources, so it is pretty much in

    First of all, I am typically pretty private with my thoughts on a book unless I really hated it or really loved it. Other than this, I am pretty sure that the world will still spin without hearing my thoughts on someone's writing and creativity (or not). I now know that this is because I am the personality type that I am, which is, depending on what chapter of Reading People you are studying - an INFJ, an Introvert, an HSP...and the list goes on. I am in Human Resources, so it is pretty much in my job description that I need to have an interest in...the Humans...and I do. And I would have told you that I had a pretty fair understanding of personality assessments and all ripple effects of how that makes the human interact with others, learn, deal with stress, emote in general, etc. However, until I read the advanced reader copy of this book, I didn't realize how wrong I was in some of my preconceived notions. Anne breaks this down in such a way that all can understand, even HR people. Additionally, she makes you understand with each chapter WHY this is important to know, and HOW to work with folks that are unlike you - a pretty important thing we need to know in life. If you know of Anne, or her blog Modern Mrs. Darcy, or her podcast (SWOON), What Should I Read Next, you know that the word for Anne's tone is warm. This book is written as if you are already friends with Anne, and she has something really interesting and really informative to tell you. I plowed through it in two days, but have already begun a slow re-reading, and a plan to have the husband learn alongside me our "ways" and how to best connect through, and in spite of, our differences. Grab this book as soon as you can and start understanding those around you in a different and better way than before. Get it for your HR person, maybe. Just do not miss it.

  • Sarah

    Full Review on my blog...

    This is only my first time through... gonna need to go back and spend some more time on a couple of chapters with a pen and notebook once I get my physical copy!

    Anne Bogel, of Modern Mrs. Darcy (blog) and What Should I Read Next (podcast) does wonderful job of presenting some of the most common and popular personality frameworks out there right now. Sharing insights from her own journey to figure out how *she* ticks, Anne gives an outli

    Full Review on my blog...

    This is only my first time through... gonna need to go back and spend some more time on a couple of chapters with a pen and notebook once I get my physical copy!

    Anne Bogel, of Modern Mrs. Darcy (blog) and What Should I Read Next (podcast) does wonderful job of presenting some of the most common and popular personality frameworks out there right now. Sharing insights from her own journey to figure out how *she* ticks, Anne gives an outline of these frameworks, as well as tools and tips for assessing yourself, and putting that new found information about your personality to work for you!

  • Megan Ericson

    Because of this book:

    1) I have an excuse forever to drink multiple cups of coffee per day. (Thank you extroverted brain.)

    2) I found out my husband is an HSP (highly sensitive person) and how to prevent him from getting into the "Overtalked Introvert Danger Zone."

    3) Finally confirmed, without a doubt, my Myers-Briggs type. It's ESTJ, BTW ;-)

    4) And, found an old copy of StrengthsFinders 2.0 on our bookshelf (Score!), so I can hopefully decide where my career should be headed from here.

    I was thrill

    Because of this book:

    1) I have an excuse forever to drink multiple cups of coffee per day. (Thank you extroverted brain.)

    2) I found out my husband is an HSP (highly sensitive person) and how to prevent him from getting into the "Overtalked Introvert Danger Zone."

    3) Finally confirmed, without a doubt, my Myers-Briggs type. It's ESTJ, BTW ;-)

    4) And, found an old copy of StrengthsFinders 2.0 on our bookshelf (Score!), so I can hopefully decide where my career should be headed from here.

    I was thrilled to learn Anne Bogel (of the Modern Mrs. Darcy blog and What Should I Read Next? podcast) was launching a book with an overview of the top personality tests and why they've made a difference in her life.

    I am obsessed with personality tests. I am constantly analyzing my friends and family members (whether they want to be or not). Even though I've heard of all these typing systems and taken most of them, I didn't know how to learn from the results.

    The real gems from this book, in my opinion, are not the overviews of the personality types (though extremely helpful), it's Anne's insights into how that typing system can improve your life and help you along in your journey to personal growth.

    I think most people have been forced to take an assessment in a school or job setting, and then thought: "This isn't me!" Anne goes over common user-error issues in taking these assessments.

    Also, anyone who thinks personality tests are dumb or dislike being "put in a box" should read this book. Anne systematically debunks both assumptions, and more eloquently than I could ever try.

    As they old adage says: When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. This one found me at just the right time.

    P.S. I was given this book by the publisher in exchange for an honest review. And, honestly, I love it!

  • April (Getting Hygge With It)

    I love all things personality. I was that teen that bought magazines mostly for the quiz section. What type of friend are you? What career should you get into? I loved it all and not much has changed. If you are new to personality quizzes Reading People is the perfect place to start.

  • Lindsey

    I had the honor of being part of the launch team for this book. I have been a fan of Ann Bogel for years. First with her blog The Modern Mrs Darcy and recently with her podcast What Should I Read Next. I have to be honest and say I struggled with this book. I was halfway through and wondering to myself what I was going to walk away with. Well, let's just say the end did it for me. A realization that knowing myself, the good and the bad, better will only help me. The better I am the better my kid

    I had the honor of being part of the launch team for this book. I have been a fan of Ann Bogel for years. First with her blog The Modern Mrs Darcy and recently with her podcast What Should I Read Next. I have to be honest and say I struggled with this book. I was halfway through and wondering to myself what I was going to walk away with. Well, let's just say the end did it for me. A realization that knowing myself, the good and the bad, better will only help me. The better I am the better my kids are, my relationship with my husband is and the better I am at my job.

  • Guy Austin

    Book covers can say a lot about what is inside them. They can hook you and can cause an auto-reflex I call, have-to- have-this-in-my-hand syndrome, or H2H

    I walk through a bookshop on a mission. I must. Those pesky covers can stop me cold in my tracks, even if I have walked in with force of mind to go directly to the item of want. The fear of the book police (my wife) compels me to get out before my primal bookish urges cause me to divert, and ultimately walk out more poor in cas

    Book covers can say a lot about what is inside them. They can hook you and can cause an auto-reflex I call, have-to- have-this-in-my-hand syndrome, or H2H

    I walk through a bookshop on a mission. I must. Those pesky covers can stop me cold in my tracks, even if I have walked in with force of mind to go directly to the item of want. The fear of the book police (my wife) compels me to get out before my primal bookish urges cause me to divert, and ultimately walk out more poor in cash, but rich in literature (Do you really need more books?). Having read the digital copy of the book, “Reading People: How seeing the world through the lens of personality changes everything”, I had firm ideas as to what I would write in this review. Then I received the print edition, I found that, although I had already read it, I was compelled to hold it, stare and… smile. This work of non-fiction By Anne Bogel, displays a glass dome at its center containing a rose, set against a blue green backdrop and a gold spine on its edge. The cover sparked additional thoughts and reflections.

    Now, having discussed covers, this brings to mind another type of book that hooks. One that can give us some insight into ourselves through tales of others:

    Anne Bogel shares her story of learning about herself, from her initial attempts as a teen, later as she matured into a young adult and into the present day as a wife and mother of four. I found her story to be not unlike many.

    She expresses that in our youth, we think we know who we are and what the world is all about. However, as we engage life

    and meet its challenges, we face the reality of a world not so easily navigated. Some of the ideas she had about herself were not correct and weaknesses were exposed later. In this way she helps the reader understand, perhaps we did not know everything about the world we live in or, more important, everything about ourselves. There are epoch moments in life that can alter our perspectives and give us a paradigm shift. This book is one that can assist you with navigating those shifts. It is suggested that around your thirties is when best to start a deeper dive into this subject matter and if we wish to slay the beast that has caused error, the author suggests, we need to get real with ourselves. The rose Anne Bogel offers is one that will, help you better understand your personality, lead you to perspective on why you are who you are

    That rose is delivered in the form of personality frameworks and it is an offer difficult to refuse.

    Just like the beast of the fairy tale, we've had to learn to love as well as several other life skills.  We cannot do this well without getting to know and understand ourselves first. The Beast had to learn how to confront issues from his past, get to know his true self, grow within his strengths, and understand his weaknesses and how they impact each other. In the fairy tale, once he did work through these things, not without hard work and trial and error, the spell was broken. The author of Reading People shares that this process in real life can be messy.

    .

    Mrs. Bogel further explains, personality frameworks are steps you can take toward a better understanding and knowledge one's self and, even better, she guides you through the weeds of the processes, so to speak. Each framework, The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, StrengthsFinder, and Enneagram are just a few of the toolboxes unpacked. They all are delivered in a manner that easily digestible. If just one of these frameworks are applied honestly and correctly, it is suggested, one can slowly open their eyes into windows of possibility for themselves. As each framework is discussed they are broken out in chapters and you are given further resources to dig deeper.

    The Reading People book is not a cure for all that ails you. It is a reference guide of some of the many tools the author has uncovered and used herself, after years of effort. As she explains each, she does so with passion. Anne Bogel is an Author, Blogger and Podcaster. She is well known for her blog,

    , a Book Club and the podcast,

    In her podcast she does, “Some literary matchmaking” or as I would describe it, she is a book whisperer. She patiently listens to readers, gains insight into who they are and what makes them tick. She will then suggest titles they might read next. The Reading People book ties neatly with her ability in book matching. Only now instead of helping mediate readers towards getting to know what best suites them in literary pursuits, she mediates in the form of personality frameworks.

    Previous to this reading, I had never given much thought to personality frameworks. As you weave your way through this book you begin to see yourself differently, strengths and weaknesses appear in your mind. You may see applications toward resolution to some silly conflicts with a wife or your kids, friends or co-workers. How I respond to criticism, for better or worse is tied to my personality type in the case of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Things started to click. As for myself, I've started thinking before I reacted to external input. I began looking into my own personality type (INFP).

    I've started researching some of the literature offered as a further resource. I have begun to learn more about myself so I can, perhaps, be less of the beast I know I can be at times. I've started a blog as a creative outlet, suggested by my personality type and its needs. Anne Bogle has written a guidebook to help you understand these personality frameworks and practical applications. It is waiting for you, if you are ready. This book is proof that by reading and reflecting on it, we just might deliver new versions of ourselves. The more I have pondered its content, the more the message has resonated.

    - Be Well

    .

    Finally, I was provided an advanced reader copy of this title in exchange for my honest feedback. My hope is that, by the words I have shared, you see that I have done just that. I could not say anything less than honestly. I would not sleep well if I did otherwise.

  • Chelsea Humphrey

    This year has unexpected rendered an explosion of ARCs to read, leaving very little time for pleasure books of my choosing. When I saw the opportunity to review a read that was on my "f

    This year has unexpected rendered an explosion of ARCs to read, leaving very little time for pleasure books of my choosing. When I saw the opportunity to review a read that was on my "for fun" wish list, I decided to kill two birds with one stone and here we are. I don't read nearly enough nonfiction, as I'm in the walk of life where I'm needing fictional escapes to refill my depleted tank of "ME", but picking up

    helped me understand the

    behind that need, along with a multitude of other self realizations I hadn't known I had been searching for. It won't be for everyone, but if this type of stuff interests you I can't imagine finding a better resource out there.

    I truly believe that the above quote sums up the entire purpose of this book; sure, we want to be able to cope with our quirks and throw up a good defense, but the end goal really is to take it a step further and go on the offensive so that we can thrive utilizing our best traits. Going into this book, you should know that the author has done her research; over the course of multiple years she has utilized some of the most popular and useful resources and condensed what she feels is the most helpful of such into one succinct companion to help you discover and apply the parts you need to know. After reading the introduction and first chapter, it is encouraged to flip through and read the rest of the book in whatever order interests you most; there's no need to just hunker down and absorb in numerical fashion. I really enjoyed the freedom this gave me and found myself skipping back and forth, while also reading certain sections more than once. I'm going to briefly list the table of contents below since I've received a good number of questions wondering what all is covered here; this way you can decide if it contains some of the topics interesting you personally.

    Obviously that's a lot of information and it took me almost 2 weeks to get through it all, but this isn't the type of study that you want to rush through. I was able to learn so many things, like how I'm actually an introvert and not an extrovert (I AM STILL SHOCKED AND SHOOK AND A MESS ABOUT THAT GUYS) and I'm a Highly Sensitive Person (I didn't understand what that actually meant.

    ). Clearly we all can stand to learn a little bit about ourselves, and if you're looking to do so but have no idea where to start and are as overwhelmed as I felt, this is the perfect book for you! Listen, Anne has done all of the hard work for you so that you don't have to sift through all the muck that she did. If you'd like to do the hard thing and look at yourself a little longer than is typically comfortable, give this a try. I can attest that

    is an eye-opening experience, whether you're just looking to brush up on some of the latest trends or if you need an overhaul on your personality like I did. Highly recommended to all!

    *Many thanks to the author for sending me a signed copy; it now sits on my special signed shelf and sings Nanny Nanny Boo Boo to all who walk past. <3

  • Carrie Schmidt (Reading is My SuperPower)

    Too much introspection can be harmful, sure, but as Anne Bogel claims in Reading People, uncovering insights into personality – our own and other people’s – also helps us see the world from someone else’s point of view for a while. It can explain why we have a difficult time getting along with someone, why clutter irritates us so much, why we get our energy from being by ourselves, and so on. It can also improve our relationships – particularly in the way we approach conflict – and gives us the

    Too much introspection can be harmful, sure, but as Anne Bogel claims in Reading People, uncovering insights into personality – our own and other people’s – also helps us see the world from someone else’s point of view for a while. It can explain why we have a difficult time getting along with someone, why clutter irritates us so much, why we get our energy from being by ourselves, and so on. It can also improve our relationships – particularly in the way we approach conflict – and gives us the tools we need to create an environment of peace for ourselves and those we love.

    On the pages of Reading People, Bogel arms us with easy-to-absorb information, as well as handing us the keys to truly know ourselves and those we love. She gives an overview of several personality frameworks, including:

    the Five Love Languages

    Keirsey’s Temperaments

    the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (and the Cognitive Functions that go along with that)

    the Clifton StrengthsFinder, and

    the Enneagram

    Bottom Line: For anyone who can’t get enough of those personality quizzes that invade social media, this is the book you need to read! If you’ve ever asked yourself, ‘Why does my spouse (or parent or child or friend) do that?’, this is the book you need to read! Reading People by Anne Bogel is conversational, educational, and applicable to everyday life. The frameworks she presents have the potential to be eye-opening and life-changing for those who take the time to truly understand themselves and others. There’s a lot of information here, but Bogel’s engaging style sets you at ease and feels like a chat between friends. While I do wish there had been more time devoted to ‘ok, now I understand myself better – how does that play out in my interactions with other types?’, the author also leaves us with a list of recommended reading for further study. Now that I know what I want to know, this list points me in the right direction to find out what to do with what I know.

    (I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book)

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